Sunday, July 27, 2008

your opinion: 5 top challenges?

Dana Bristol-Smith, another speaker trainer who focuses on women at her blog, Speak for Success, has started a strong discussion thread on LinkedIn that you may want to join. Her question: What do you see as the top five challenges for giving effective business presentations inside of large companies today? So far, respondents are covering topics that range from logistics to knowing your audience--and thinking through why and whether they care about your point. Join the conversation here, in the comments, or by clicking the link above. You also can go to Dana's blog and leave your comments there.

And for those looking for more resources on women and public speaking, check out this news from Dana's profile:
Dana has recently launched the Speak for Success Women's Leadership Institute...The vision behind the Women’s Leadership Institute is to give women the tools, support, and confidence to:

* Become leaders in corporations and non-profit organizations
* Start their own businesses
* Speak out as advocates for the prevention of domestic violence
* Be inspiring role models for their families and women everywhere

Dana's posted The Eloquent Woman widget on her blog to share our posts with readers--don't forget, you can, too. Just click on the button at right.

Tuesday, July 22, 2008

alltop adds us to its speaking feed

Alltop, an aggregator site that promises "all the top" sites and articles on the Web, has added The Eloquent Woman to its regular feed of public speaking articles. Aside from our contributions, you'll find dozens of other sites with tips on everything from PowerPoint to whether to point while you speak. Enjoy this online resource--I'm delighted that this new blog is included!

can your kid's photo quell speaking fears?

I've heard executive women speakers say they sometimes fight their speaking fears by putting a child's drawing or a photo of their child on the lectern during a talk. Now there may be a scientific reason for speaking moms to tote that photo along. An article in today's New York Times reports on a study that suggests there's a positive neurological effect for moms who have their smiling child's photo in front of them. Here's the main finding noted by the Times:
Using a functional MRI scanner to watch the brain in action, researchers have demonstrated that a picture of her own smiling baby activates the critical reward-processing regions of the mother’s brain much more strongly than seeing a picture of an unknown baby with the same happy look.
The lead author of the paper noted: "This very common response mothers have to their own babies is biologically driven. These brain systems are programmed to give us this emotional high." You'll note that pictures of a crying baby had the same impact, a release of dopamine, for reasons that are still unclear, but we'd stick with a happy shot for best effect. (The original paper in the journal Pediatrics is here.) Do you post your child's photo in front of you when speaking? Let us know in the comments.

Tuesday, July 15, 2008

hat tips: we're in good blogging company

Hat tips all around to two of our favorite blogs about public speaking for their recent inclusion of the Eloquent Woman in their weekly must-read listings: Breaking Murphy's Law (tagline: because when you're presenting, someone's always watching) flagged our review of the Amazon Kindle as a speech-reading device. And Six Minutes has included several EW posts in its weekly roundup of "best public speaking articles," including our take on trying the Kindle, using your personality type to understand your speaking strengths, and more. Welcome, readers of both blogs--please leave your comments!

Monday, July 14, 2008

for speakers: a jitters quiz

If you're trying to figure out why you get nervous when speaking before an audience--and some tips for how to overcome your jitters--take this quiz put together by psychologist Dr. Joyce Brothers. Taking the speaker's view, she looks at how you perceive yourself as a nervous speaker--for example, does your fear of speaking mean you have a more deep-seated issue?--and how you perceive your audience and make decisions about your speech as a result. How did you score--and did this give you new insights about your speaking style?

Tuesday, July 8, 2008

Cheryl Richardson & your inner critic

Are you your worst critic when it comes to public speaking? Author and life coach Cheryl Richardson, in her book Stand Up for Your Life: A Practical Step-by-Step Plan to Build Inner Confidence and Personal Power, calls her own public speaking career "a wonderful opportunity to work with my inner critic." She describes how she came to realize that she feared her own criticisms more than those of the audience, and the poor results that make a speaker's self-criticism come true:

The moment you give power to the stream of negative thoughts by self-consciously analyzing what you're saying, you lose connection with your audience. The end result is exactly what you fear most--a less than desirable presentation.

Richardson's chapter on "Stop Hiding Your Power" looks at ways you may be self-sabotaging in more areas than public speaking, though all are relevant considerations for would-be eloquent women: how you speak about yourself and others, accept compliments, present your image, and handle that inner critic. There's a series of exercises designed to get you to think those issues through, and ultimately, to turn your inner critic into an ally. And a later chapter on building courage recalls her first speaking opportunity at a Toastmasters meeting--a story any nervous speaker can relate to. You'll find it difficult to recognize Richardson, who makes hundreds of public speaking appearance and is featured on The Oprah Winfrey Show, XM Radio and the Oxygen Network. (Go here to see audio and video clips.)

Whether you work through this issue on your own, with a group, or with a coach, every speaker will benefit from considering her own inner critic and whether it's standing in the way of your success. I'm often struck by the number of trainees I encounter who have devised a list of criticisms that are apparent to no one but themselves when it comes to their speaking style. Check out our poll this month on what your inner critic is saying--and work to dispel those thoughts.

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Monday, July 7, 2008

making shifts as a speaker

Fond as I am of trying new devices for speakers, I know that most speakers come to phases in their learning that require a major shift: from speaking as one of many in a meeting to a solo talk, from small groups to large audiences, from scripted to extemporaneous, or from low-tech to high, as in audioconferencing, incorporating online resources or using a teleprompter.

This weekend, the New York Times looked at presidential candidate John McCain's struggles with more than one such speaker transition, as he moves to more scripted talks from his usual off-the-cuff style, and with it, a transition from extemporaneous remarks to those requiring the ultimate technology, the teleprompter. He's also battling his own limits as a speaker, as the article notes:

By his own admission, Mr. McCain is not a great orator. He is ill-suited to lecterns, which often dwarf his small stature, and he tends to sound as if he is reading his lines, not speaking them. His shortcomings have been accentuated in a two-man race, particularly because the other man — Senator Barack Obama, the presumptive Democratic nominee — can often dazzle on stage.

The article yields some insights from which any speaker can benefit:

  • Practice restraint and avoid embellishment. If your goal is to convey a precise point, avoid tangents and extemporaneous extras. In McCain's case, this means avoiding his common wisecracks and sarcastic criticisms of his opponent--sarcasm rarely plays well with general audiences and can seem gratuitous and mean-spirited.
  • Play to your strengths, but practice your weaknesses. The article quotes a former adviser saying that, aside from the convention, "the only time I would even put him behind a podium at all between now and the end of the campaign is when he’s announcing a policy position.” That's a great plan, but may not be practical--so McCain's rehearsing with teleprompters. a script and a podium in the meantime. It's nice to think you can avoid speaker situations that don't play to your strong points, but unless you have an extensive campaign operation that can control your settings, start practicing for those less-than-ideal venues and situations.
  • Find out your verbal tripping points. For McCain, it happens to be the name of an energy proposal he's pushing. For other speakers, it may be a name or word that highlights a verbal trouble spot--if you pop your P's or lisp when you say too many S's, you'll do better by practicing your speeches out loud to discover any tripping points--and doing that in advance. At least you can consider word changes at your leisure and not on the fly.
  • Note your verbal and visual "ums," which aren't always "ums." McCain uses "my friends" repeatedly, the article notes--and I know that any phrase, over-repeated, can cause the audience to start counting those incidences and stop listening to you. For the speaker, any over-used phrase acts like an "um" to give you time to think. I recommend a different course: verbal stepping-stones, planned in advance for those moments when you don't know what to say immediately. Your "ums" also may be visual or physical tics, invisible to you but well in view of your audience; check out our advice on getting rid of "visual ums" from the don't get caught news & info blog here.

July 4 speaker, out, standing in her field?

New York Times columnist Gail Collins (who was the Times's first female editorial page editor) took a look back on July 5 at how women helped to change the ways we celebrate Independence Day and other political celebrations. Noting that political parades and celebrations were much rowdier before PlayStation and TV, Collins described how bringing women into the voting populace led to fewer election day (and July 4) parades ending in fistfights and drunken brawls. In Wyoming, people liked the change so much that the first speech given when Wyoming became a state was about suffrage. It was given by one Theresa Jenkins, who:
...got particular commendation for her delivery, which was so forceful she could be heard at the far reaches of a crowd that stretched back for four blocks. It turned out she had been practicing by standing out in the open prairie, giving her speech while her husband sat in a buggy, backing farther and farther away and yelling “Louder!”
Now that's what we call practice! Check out Collins's social history, America's Women: 400 Years of Dolls, Drudges, Helpmates, and Heroines, for more great stories about women's role in our society. She notes that "it's less a war against oppressive men than a struggle to straighten out the perpetually mixed message about women's role that was accepted by almost everybody of both genders."

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testing the kindle on the lectern

I took the Amazon Kindle out for a test-drive in a real speaking engagement last month, when I moderated the annual media roundtable--a panel of three reporters--for Washington Women in Public Relations. While the moderation requires extemporaneous speaking, the panel introductions did require a text--and gave me a good test opportunity. Here's what I learned about what you should expect when using this new device in a live setting, from preparatory steps to actual use:

    • Readability was excellent. I experimented before the session with the six type sizes, and found none of them quite large enough (and my eyesight's good). So I loaded all the intros into one Word document, and bumped the type size up to 16 point in Word before emailing it to my Kindle-specific email address. (That lets Kindle reformat Word documents to fit the reader.) With text sent in 16 point type and bumped up to size six in the Kindle, it was extremely easy to read and see.
    • But that depends on the lighting. Kindles aren't backlit devices, unlike your computer screen, and that's actually better for your eyes, over time. But when you're reading on a Kindle, you need an external source of light. In this case, our venue had a nice spotlight trained over the reading surface of the lectern, and it was midday. One of our panelists reminded me that using the Kindle at night, in a darkened lecture hall and without a reading light trained on it, wouldn't work. (So that adds one more question for you to ask before you tote the Kindle along with you.)
    • The page "turners" may trip you up. Kindle features long, rectangular tabs on either side, so you can depress them with a thumb or one finger to go to the previous or next page. (Two tabs are available on either side for "next," and one tab on the left is used for "previous.") And yes, like many other reviewers, I found myself inadvertently paging forward, needed to page back to stay on top of my introductions.
I'll keep practicing privately and in live settings with Kindle, because I'm excited by the possibilities for speakers. Let me know your experiences, questions and ideas!

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